At the time of this writing, I’m feeling emotionally weird. A lot of thoughts running through my mind on certain incidences that have happened. Primary among them is the fact that it’s okay to be misunderstood and that sometimes people misunderstand and judge you first before they eventually come to understand you. That sustaining an understanding is a function of perspective (from where you stand to see a matter). Meaning what Apostle Paul stated was a profound truth – we see in part!

One more thought running hard through my mind is that the cause of many failed relationships, friendships, marriages is simply because of this one word –MISUNDERSTANDING. Understanding being the ability to comprehend another in the full scope (or even half) of what they’re communicating and realizing that they have a point. What does this mean? It means the chain of thoughts, actions, inactions, environment they are in gave them a certain perspective of truth and mindset which they sustained. The challenge being that we all have different sets of thought patterns, actions, inactions, environmental differences that give us different perspectives of truth about the same matter. Even in situations where we have similar actions, inactions, environment and thoughts, the sequence in which we experience them could affect our perspectives and give us different scopes of understanding. Feel like I’m talking rubbish? That’s okay. It’s a function of your misunderstanding me and I don’t blame you if you misunderstand me. Its either I’m not communicating effectively or you’re on a different pedestal altogether. What’s all the point though? Don’t misunderstand this one). I’d tell you. Keep reading.

To be naked means to be exposed in such a way that everything that covers and hides you is removed. It means tube seen as you are. In some circles, to be naked means to be uncovered and it’s a sign of shame and disgrace. Guess what? To be named also reflects openness, honesty and transparency (you see what perspective is unveiling here?

Well, to  be naked and not ashamed is what should happen between yoked persons especially married couples and married, I mean a male ad a female joined in union. Many relationships lack the element of openness and being free (strength and weakness clearly seen between both parties in the relationship) and hence shame characterizes many relationships. I’m not here to critique or claim to know it all. No! I’m simply writing this to encourage couples that being naked and unashamed is a goal they have to work and strive at achieving. as couples, don’t be afraid to bare  yourself to your partner after all you’re n covenant with them (marriage is a blood covenant). As a spouse, stop the attitude of judging your partner. Who else should they be naked, exposed, and open to aside God and you?

I’m here to sound a call. Husband, accept your wife the way she is and love her through. Don’t be ashamed of her past or present weaknesses and messes. Work with her.  Wifey, accept your husband the way he is. You can see all his foolishness and naivety and all. Love him as he is anyway. In relationships, especially marriage, God’s dream is that the marriage would be for the couple a place where they’re in constant nakedness one to the other and yet not ashamed of one another. Enough of pointing fingers at one another in the marriage.  Accept your spouse the way they are

What has being naked and not ashamed got to do with the understanding concept you talked on at the beginning of this write-up? (I’m smiling you know)Don’t worry, you’d learn it practically when you start being truly naked with your spouse.

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It’s okay to be first misunderstood and really that’s what happens.  Just strive to reach the place of understanding for intimacy is truly defined as into me see. Certainly, be angry, get heart, feel betrayed and misunderstood but make it a point to get to the place called understanding and acceptance in your relationship and marriage. (You want me to tell you how to get to the place of understanding and acceptance? Ok. Another post). When you get there with your spouse, you’d truly understand the blessedness of BEING NAMKED AND NOT ASHAMED.

God bless you.

If you don’t understand, don’t worry. Light will dawn on you soon. Keep reading. Here is a collection of related helpful write-ups for you